When things went wrong - by Ni Zain

Nothing more tragic than if you did all your best and than some things went wrong. Even worse if it is the health of your child. Just briefly I came across some cases where it looked like all was prepared for these babies to get a good start in live - a happy family, health was taken care off, but things went wrong. Stress with the partner during pregnancy, too much working, poor health of the mother, the unknown factor of giving birth, where we never can tell what can happen. Well thinking parents giving their child the doctor's recommended vaccination. Your baby is born to early or had to be a Caesarian operation. So many million things can go wrong.

As a matter of fact we can never turn the time back and do things better. What's done is done. But there is a little light at the end of the corridor. Even if things went wrong:

We still can do a lot!

We can change the child's life if we doing the right moves from now on!

For several months I posted a note on the Bali for Kids.com newsletter, that autism is curable. I got only 3 kids with their parents on the program right now. They all live outside of Indonesia and I am not able to meet them, but the parents are in constant contact with me. If I tell you now, that all three kids have improved more than 200% since we started - Would you be surprised? I guess so. It is also a fact, that I have several autistic kids around me, but the parents did not make a move yet. Seams their lives are too filled up with work and other things. Doesn't matter if the child is running autism. Doesn't it? But probably it is the same as in most other cases. People are too brain washed. Medical system says Autism cannot be cured. Point. No way. If Autism is caused by high levels of mercury from vaccination, mercury can be removed. By the way. Do you know your mercury level? No. Well better get that sorted out. Because if you got a lot of mercury in your memory gland, you might develop Parkinson, Alzheimer or cancer. Perhaps not now, but latest when you around 50 or 55. - Perhaps not all cases of Autism can be cured, but many can. Or at least the children can improve their lives - better than before. Or not?

Okay, lets go to the next. ADD, AHHA and UHHU... and all the crap I read in many articles. For me all these diagnoses of children's learning and behavior problems are so much bullshit, as you can find on fur a cow. Why? Simply because they are home made. Okay, lets start. Take a healthy toddler or child with lots of energy (got one at home like that!) and than tell him to sit down for 5 hours a day. Sorry, does not work. Where to put all those energy? Children who can sit down for 5 hours DO have in my opinion a real problem. Mostly they are pale little children, often sick, eat not well and mostly with sleeping problems. Okay. So back to our health little jump arounds. Now, as these kids are already having so much energy, than pump a little more sugar, tomatoes, milk, wheat, corn and chemicals in form of vitamins into them. What is the result? More energy! So now this super energetic healthy child has to sit for 30 minutes in school bus. Has to do homework. Has to learn viola? Gosh, it must nearly explode of energy. And there you go. You got a bomb going up. Tantrum. Hyperactivity. On this point many doctors and parents are going for more chemicals and sorry to say this so rude: But now they really messing their child up big time! They calm them down. Wonderful. And a carrier of drug taking human hood is born! But what to do? Okay. Easy... Put your child on a special healthy diet to not increase energy intake, but nutrition. Find a school where activities change every hour. Drawing and after building a tower. Reading a book, after sliding. Burn energy first, than tuck them down. If you child has still not burned all energy until after school - and healthy little kids tend to still have energy at that time of the day! - Than first of all - no sleeping time! Second burn more energy. Sport at least 3 times a week after school is recommended for such kids. Those children need to have regular bed times and sleep a lot. Recommended is to get your smaller child at around 7:30h sleeping and than until 7 or 7:30h in the morning sleeping. Little variations are always possible. Anything out of this time is causing a hyperactive effect again as they get overly tired and running on adrenalin, which than gives them a hard time to get to sleep at a later point. Homeopathic can help to get a better sleeping pattern. If you decided your child has to be more academic, that you just not going with the needs of your child. If you like to know more about it, please read about Steiner Teachings. Steiner is explaining the development of children very well and has developed a very good program to educate children via their development stages. In smaller children the physical movements are more important than the intellectual. Briefly I talked to a dance teacher and she told me that she also believes that children with lots of energy are healthy and need to burn energy. Lots of sport is the right choice for those children. You will see your ADD child will be just as normal as you like to have it... Or perhaps your child is just very intelligent and bored to dead. they need to get input as much as they can. TV is not really a help, but books and little projects and help. Even to put them on home work help is a good idea. They need to learn to be a part of the "run-a-family". You will be surprised how much your child can help you if you get it going in the right direction. It is an incredible help for the development for children and will help children who are bored or have too much energy. Let them bring the laundry in your just got of the loan. 10 times garden-kitchen run burns a lot of energy.

"My child is always sick and has no energy." - Probably your child is living with a low spleen function and is not getting enough good food. What makes it even harder is that these children refuse all what is offered to them. To get your child better, you first need to understand, that you can do a lot, but it is a lot of work and it can take more than 6 months until you see results. But first of all you need to see that your child is having a problem. Many parents closing their eyes and don't want to face the facts. "My child is healthy and fine". Perhaps yes now, but in a few years? And is it really always healthy? I see many of these "healthy" children with runny noses and coughs all the time... Why not facing the situation and making a move for the benefit of your child? In many holistic healing practices there are ways to increase the spleen function of children. White food is the food those kids are craving for, because anything else makes them feel overloaded. But white food does not have enough nutrition, so your child is caught up in a spiral. In fine-tuning your child your are able to slowly increase all functions and your child will suddenly be a healthy run around with lots of fun.

Birth traumas are very common. Many people think that it is such a great idea to give birth in a clinic with doctors. To be honest, the best way is at home with a experienced midwife. Midwives have many tricks to get babies out of moms and really good midwives have a very low rate of sending a mother to a clinic. Good midwives help mothers after birth. They come back and check on the moms - forever. I remember that the midwife of my mom for my birth came from time to time for a coffee to my mom. She was already retired, but keep in touch with all her babies. This way I often heard the story of my birth and the weeks after. So I remember this as a part of my live. The midwife of my daughters birth became one of my best friends. We see seldom, but it is a sort of tradition by now that she joins with her family my daughters birthday parties. This way I keep in touch with my birth history and find out more each year. The birth of my daughter was quite a story, but it never occurred to me as a trauma, because I got this great woman with me even in a clinic. I know what I could have done better if I would have known! But I have no trauma. Where even a lot of other women want to tell me that a birth is always a trauma. - Back to traumas. If a birth trauma accurse, mother and child are marked for live. Your body, mind and spirit never forgets a bad birth. It is marked in our souls. the sadness of this is, that in normal medicine I never heard about a case where mom or child have taken care of the trauma. they got medically taken care off, but at the end it always ended up: "Sorry that it happened. Risk of live or so. You will get over it soon..." Well thanks, I can say in the name of many children and mothers who had a horror trip and never healed from it... But I would not mention this, if there is not help on the way. With Flower Remedies and other holistic practices, like Aura Healing we can now help both mother and child, to heal the trauma. It will not be forgotten, but we can release the pain, sadness, anger and all the other stuff we had to go though and release it. Sounds to far off for you? Well, just because you never thought or heard about something like this, does not mean it is not possible. Gentle births and a wonderful start of live is the work of Robin Lim and the Bumi Sehat Foundation. Thousands of kids have been born at the Bumi Sehat, to not experience a birth trauma. If you experienced a birth trauma as a mother or as the child, you should see if you can get some healing done on you. You will see if will change your live!

Fact is: If things went wrong we still can make a change for the health and happiness of our children. We shall not ignore the facts, just because it is to far off. Just because we think it is not changeable, just because it does not matter. Just because a doctor is telling us it is not possible. Fact is: Too many people running around with major physical and psychological problems and if they would have gotten help as children, they would have had better lives. Perhaps not ended up as criminals in jail. Perhaps not as a victim in a bad marriage. Perhaps not as a depressed person, not knowing and understanding what is happening to him. Fact is: It is easier to go on with it. To make changes takes the will to make a change. It takes effort and time. It takes love and understanding. It will challenge you. But it will make a change. Fact is: Everybody is complaining about how hard the world is getting out there. There are many reasons for it. But at least we can make changes on our basic. Happiness and love are created from a healthy body, sprit and mind.

Get your child treated soon, no matter what happened. Holistic Healers you can find all over the world. Do it now!

With hope for the children of this world - lets make a change to them - now - Ni Zain

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